A friend pointed me in the direction of a music video for Rudimental’s track, Waiting All Night.
My friend has read The Guide and sent me the video as an example of togetherness:
The music video follows the inspirational true-life story of Kurt Yaeger and his friends. He’s a pro BMX rider, and from the clip his Friends are no slouches either. The film begins showing the guys riding together. We gather that they are firm friends and ‘go back’. Kurt then has an accident. Cut to him asleep in a hospital bed, the same group of guys around him. As a result of the accident, he has had the lower part of his left leg amputated. He and his buddies are devastated.
We then follow the group as they go about healing their wounds. I say ‘their’, because these guys are so tight, that they are sharing the pain. We see them in physio together, wheeling him into parties, and riding as he cuts a
frustrated figure on the side.
Slowly but surely, Kurt develops the strength in what’s left of his leg, gets an artificial limb fitted and tentatively begins to learn to ride a bike for the second time in his life. All the while, his friends alongside, supporting.
The film ends with them riding together. All smiles.
Aside from it being a beautifully told story, it’s a wonderful example for the power of the Tribe: A group of guys so tightly bound that when one hurts, they all suffer.
In The Guide, we talk about how ultimately, as a man, you’re Alone. The reasoning being, life is your unique struggle. How and what you chose to do on the journey rests firmly at your door.
However, Alone and Lonely are very different things. What Men Do is surround themselves with those they love, that help them further their Purpose, challenge and support them ‘through thick and thin,’ as we say in Yorkshire. This is your Tribe.
While the journey is yours, and the path you choose is your decision alone, it’s true that, as the Turkish proverb says, ‘No road is long with good company.’